San Antonio Boudoir Photography - How to Feel Ready for Your Session
Nov 4, 2019 | By: Lauren Fryer
How to feel confident and ready for your boudoir session.
Boudoir is a very intimate session.
It takes a lot of courage to get in front of the camera with little to nothing on, all the while trying to convey a sense of sexy to the camera. I understand this.
A successful boudoir session begins with loving yourself.
Don’t look in the mirror and only focus on your imperfections (we all have those!), stand confidently and tell yourself what you love about your body. A good practice is to do this every morning. We, women, have a tendency to only focus on what is wrong, what we don't like, or why we can't look like that one Instagram model. This not only starts your day in the negative, but it does nothing for your self-confidence.
This is the time to feel empowered, to feel confident, and it's time for you to feel amazing.
So my first tip to you today, don't start the day in the negative; start the day empowered and ready to take on the world!
Think about your why. Why are you doing this session? What made your say “I want to book a boudoir session”?
There is always a why.
Are you doing this session for yourself or for your significant other? While a gift for someone else is a good reason for this session, boudoir is about loving and celebrating yourself. There is a reason to celebrate you right now. No, your current weight doesn’t matter, and no your age doesn’t matter.
Take a minute right now and look at your life right now.
Think about why you are ready to celebrate you.
I’m going to tell you a secret…I have things I want to change about my body, there are times when I don’t follow my own advice and look in the mirror, thinking about the things I want to change. I try to remind myself to stay positive, and really celebrate my body and the two kids it has given me, but I’m not perfect and neither are you. Please don’t get hard on yourself if you catch yourself “hating” on your body. We all do it, and we will continue to do it; that’s just being a human.
But there is a reason you are reading this, there is a reason you want to experience a boudoir session. I have clients that are in the middle of their weight loss goal. Yes, you read that right, they are in the middle of their weight loss journey. They have lost some weight and are ready to celebrate how far they have come. Other women are going through divorces, and ready to re-discover themselves in this new chapter of their life. And of course, I have plenty of women doing this for their significant other, but they end up discovering a little about themselves in the process.
Why not celebrate you at this moment in time?
So no, you do not have to have a perfect body (news flash…no such thing!) to do a boudoir session, you just need to be you!
Feeling nervous, self-conscious, or anxious is completely normal. Every woman that has walked through my studio doors has felt nervous about doing their boudoir session. You will too.
I try my absolute best to calm those nerves and have a few tips to help, but I’m pretty sure that you will still feel nervous.
I want you to know a few things about a Boudoir Experience with me:
I’m not really looking at your body. Stay with me here. Yes, I am looking at your body in a technical stance, looking at the pose you are in to make sure it is correct, looking at the light and how it is hitting your curves, but the one thing I am not doing - judging.
I’m nervous too! I want to make sure I am getting all the best angles that make you look and feel amazing.
What you wear will make a difference. Honestly, this little tip can be for a boudoir session, as well as everyday life. Wear something that fits perfectly. Don’t focus on the size number, focus on how it fits your body. Wearing something, whether that be jeans, a shirt, or even lingerie, that is a size or two too small will actually make you look 5-10 lbs heavier. Now, if you wear something that fits perfectly, you won’t just look amazing, you will feel amazing.
Don’t worry about hair and makeup! I have that covered.
I have been to so many boudoir conferences, workshops, and have done hundreds of hours of online training to make sure you are getting an amazing experience. This is